Middle school bullies and mean girls grow up and become adult bullies and mean girls. Grown up queen-bees and bullying behaviour remains the same as back in the day: it systematically targets people with the intention to intimidate, undermine, or degrade. The same tricks get recycled too: gossip (lies), sabotage, exclusion, public shaming and many more deliberate behaviours.
According to www.bullyingstatistics.org "The goal of the adult bully is to gain power over another person, and make himself or herself the dominant adult and try and humiliate victims, and "show them who is boss.""
"Some people try to be tall by cutting off the heads of others." - Paramahansa Yogananda
Being bullied is very painful and truly a tragic experience. Having thought once we grew up into adulthood we would no longer have to experience (cope) with mean girls, group clicks, gangs, gossips and liars. These people who need to feel good or worthy at the expense of another is horrific. People who bully are acting in premeditation and deliberate cruelty.
Adult bullying is very serious and very real. I have personally experienced adult bullying and would love to share how working with my coach has helped me move through the pain, heal and find a more courageous and graceful self.
Are you a victim of bullies, mean girls or boys? Plese reach out, I'd love to listen.