People pleasing is something I grew up practicing. I thought people would like me if I did what they wanted. I did things for people hoping it would make them include me, accept me. I said, acted and dressed just to please. I did things people wanted me to do even if I hated it or knew it wasn't right. This people pleasing developed into an enormous mask for not meeting myself. I was all tangled up in what I thought people wanted me to be and I never got to know myself. I never met the real and authentic me. This people pleasing got me mixed up in making bad decisions, choosing wrong people doing risky things in dangerous places. It has taken me a decade to "meet" myself and understand my thoughts, emotions and actions.
Today as a recovery life coach, I choose to serve others. I serve myself by being honest with myself. I'm meeting myself where I am and knowing who I am. I set boundaries. I've learned to say "Yes" to myself more. Today I discern. I listen to my instincts and don't allow others to talk me into or out of what I know to be true and right for me.
How can you say "Yes" to yourself more?